Body shaming your child’s mother and other bad ideas

This is the Finest Nerd Czarina, and I hate the news. Today, I specifically hate reality tv stars who body shame women.

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I had forgotten about Jeff Lewis. Way back when I had cable television, I used to watch all sorts of garbage television, including whatever show he happened to star in awhile ago. I don’t remember Lewis being a very likable person; he came off as arrogant and condescending to his friends and employees. I watched a lot of television at the time, though, and I made some questionable choices.

Anyhow, he was recently slapped with a lawsuit by the woman who was the surrogate for his daughter. Lewis seems surprised and upset by this turn of events, and he later accused the woman of essentially being a gold digger.

The woman on the other side of the lawsuit claimed that she was not aware that the birth of the baby was going to be filmed for television, nor was she terribly comfortable with television crews pointing their cameras at her vagina while she was trying to push out a child. In addition, Lewis made some pretty disgusting body-shaming comments on the television show about her. Bitch, this lady is giving birth to your child. The process of delivering a baby is not glamorous or beautiful; it’s bloody, it’s painful, there is occasional shit on the table, and it completely wrecks a woman’s body. It is not the time for some snobby moron to be critiquing said woman’s body or her choice to remove or not remove her body hair. Until you are willing to go through the entire gruesome process yourself, sit back and wait for her body to do what it needs to do to deliver your long awaited child. I think he has a lot of nerve playing stupid about why this woman would be so upset. I couldn’t imagine how pissed off I’d be if I found out that someone I thought I trusted as a friend and biological parent of my kid would be so nasty during a vulnerable moment in my life.

I don’t buy into the idea that he didn’t know better, or was just being honest/himself, or anything else. It is never okay to body shame someone else. People, particularly men, seem to think it’s well within their rights to form opinions about what women look or act like – even if they have nothing to do with them. Newsflash: You don’t. Sh. Shhh. Stop talking.

I need some vino.

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